Its almost 2014 and that means a new year- a new you! 

HAPPY NEW YEAR

x TheDateApologist

This My Brain... This is My Brain During Finals.

Hello! Long time, No see!!!!!

I am pretty sure that's because its coming to the close of our semester here at university....
 That means

1. I'm almost to T H A N K S G I V I N G Break!!!

Doin' the most.

2. After a relaxing break full of thankfulness, food, and Black Friday shopping...

I will wake up the next day and realize....

     F I N A LS 

              I ONLY HAVE LIKE 2 WEEKS TO GET MY ACT TOGETHER!!  

  And by act I mean try to get as much Bonus Points to go to my economics class as I can. 

                                                     School? 

Wait... Wut? 

3. So in attempts to make right all my wrong doings.... I shall stay up to the wee hours of the night studying...

And by studying I really mean....

4. And I'd be lying if I said I wasn't getting distracted by all the beautiful things around me...

 Things like this..... 

Or 

Better 

yet...

THIS 

Ultimately, I'm not going to stress out that much about the semester coming to a close....

Okay... So maybe I will feel a little like this...

Yah.. I don't understand it either... But..

  Don't be surprised if you see me in the same sweatshirt multiple times, running off coffee, and glued to my laptop doing research.. and/ or crying because its not Christmas yet...

BUT 

The light at the end of the tunnel is my last point...

 5. WINTER IS COMING
[and by "Winter" I mean the Holidays... (and "Holidays" I mean Christmas)]

May it snow like small angels falling from the sky

May the force be with you during the end of this year....

Godspeed,

Jessica

P.S. If you happen to see me passed out in public.... Leave me... I probably really need the sleep. 

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Mystic Crystal Revelations

11/11/13

The future ,  its seems just so ....Distant . Sometimes I find myself stuck a rut . This rut can be a black pit of despair with no hope of ever getting out . 

As a college student, this dark rut happens to me multiple times during the year . It starts with just a small feeling , that "why am I?" thought, then it grows into a festering sore of self doubt and pity. Ultimately, this  over-stimulation of feeling will stress you out and can cause you to be reluctant to better yourself.

 

BUT WAIT !!!!!!! THERE IS HOPE , YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS ! You feeling like this is okay, because there is something you can do about it. Trust me, I have been in this place of insanity and this is how I keep from losing my mind .  

Here's something to try , instead of wallowing in self pity-doubt , place your self in a situation where you can show off what your good at .

 For example , I am a singer and I am studying classical voice. However, my heart belongs to Musical Theatre ! I love musicals and I have a vast knowledge of them. Being in shows and singing the songs from musicals truly makes me happy . I never realized that it was okay to pursue something that made me that happy , until this weekend . I got the chance to take a 2 hour Broadway belt lesson and well ..... not to brag ... I killed it ! 

And in that teacher was impressed ! He loved my voice and gave me tricks to be better . That moment I crawled out of the not good enough pit and began to believe that maybe I could do it . If I work hard and practice that I could make it in something I love with all my heart . 

Friends , you have to learn how to believe in yourselves . In believing that you are good at something , that thing becomes an anchor you can hold on to . It will keep you sane and keep out of that dark place . So go find something that lights a fire under you butt and find that Purpose ! I believe in you, and remember to believe in yourself ! 

Who knows you may be a star , or just a really good math teacher :) 

XOXO , Chloe 

I Don't Care

HOW I FEEL RIGHT NOW

Please enjoy this song that explains my feelings right now. 

 I keep loosing my phone... Great. I think I'm getting sick??? 

 I could care less if I don't do my hair...The fire alarm went off 

this morning, and I totally slept 

through it....

                                              

 I could have died....? Nah...
 

There's a book report due soon? Oh well.. there's the
weekend for that.. I've ripped my 2nd pair of pants in the
same week???? Hah!



I obviously have been going insane with the amount
of work I've been doing.... So insane I can't focus...
 That's why I'm blogging.


    And thats A-okay with me.
 
THE END

Rose Colored Glasses

Ignorance was bliss
-Chuck Palahniuk,

It's time to be honest with ourselves. How many times have we thought of an idea and just let it run away with us?  Sometimes we lie to ourselves that we actually do know what the future holds.  Ultimately, we don't.  We don't know the thoughts of the person next to us. We don't know how things would have ended if we had chosen differently. We just don't know what the future holds. That's why we need something constant.

We hold dear the consistency of  B L I S S.  Its a beautiful word. Rhymes with kiss. It assures us that we don't have a care in the world. Although when we live in bliss, we only see what we wish to see in life.. Is it really okay to envision a naive purity? We turn blind eyes to the bones in the closet. We open the door, grab our jacket, and shut the closet door once again.  We live in monotony.  When we look through rose colored glasses, we only see life in one color and only one perspective.  When we take time to take off our shades, we will see the depth and fullness that life has to offer. We will see the color and vibrancy of our environment, but also we will see the truth and pain that our world is in.  As Christians we need to stop living in a world that we think is perfect. We can't always keep turning the other cheek. 

The world in rose colored glasses

I believe that if we realize the beguilement that is being presented to us, we won't be seeing the same rose complected attitude we did before. We need to learn to stand up for our beliefs. Let's not settle for what we see in the world. I am tired of people complaining that the world is so horrible, and yet they don't take the time to make a difference. Next time you pass by a person, think deeper than the out layer. Think deeper than the roses covering their eyes. Take off your glasses and look into their life. Pray that the Lord humbles you to see deeper than their superficial shell. Look past the beautiful and lavish materials, and ask them what their soul needs. Not every one is as perfect as you might think. We need to change the Constant in our lives from ignorance to into living our life for the Lord intentionally. Yes, we don't know what the future holds, but if we are led daily by the will of God, we can capture the vision and heart that God has for His people. So take off those rose colored glasses, and find something to live for.


xJessica

Art by Nan Lawson

Go Make Me A Sandwich !

11/4/13




What men need from women? ....  thats a scary statement ! As women I doubt we are ever told the answer . We always just assume that men want simple things like , video games , food, and physical attention.  Have you ever thought that maybe men need emotional support just like us women ? That just maybe in order for a man to be the protector and provider , he needs to be uplifted and not nagged?
I'm not saying that men are always right and when they make mistakes that these mistakes should just be accepted. But when a mistake (possibly one in which you predicted the outcome) causes your man , brother , or father to fall on his face , don't laugh at him , don't insult his masculinity .

Ladies I hate to break it to you but if you were expecting your man to be Prince Charming , you are wrong . He doesn't exists, he's not running late or stuck in a tree someplace . And the longer you wait on your "prince charming" , the harder the dating game becomes . Men are not perfect (just like women) and when we except this concept , we can begin to take off the relationship blinders . Girls some advice on how to interact with men ..... Number 1 DO NOT lead a guy on !!!! this is probably  the worst thing you could possibly do to a guy . #2 Understand that woman have this power over mens hearts that if used in the wrong manipulative way can scare a man . #3 Dress Beautifully not Stimulating , if you get attention from a man because of the way you are dressing, then I suggest you rethink your outfit . And lastly #4 watch the way you interact with them physically and verbally . Something as simple as a touch on the arm or a hug that lasts too long can easily lead a man on .  Women out there I know this is a lot to digest , but remember that you are made in the image of God. God doesn't make trash so don't act like trash.



Now Men have have a little bit of advice for you , because we women confuse you all it seems. So number 1, Take it easy , stop being so aggressive in you pursuit of a lady . Women want to feel safe and this type of aggression is a turn off.  #2 Learn how to be our friends (simple boys you can do it ! ) #3 No sexual thoughts , its another thing thing that fuels the obsessive aggression and women just want to feel safe . Lastly, study us learn what we like and dislike , what makes us happy and sad , and how to be our best friends .




Love is real , stay positive and know that I and God love you for who you are .

XOXO Chloe

Missing the Beat

  

Boom boom boom. It's all happening. It feels as if everyone I know is boarding the relationship train while I am here living in a shack in Singlesville (where National Singles Day is everyday!). 

Am I doing something wrong? I feel like I'm missing the beat. 

No person who is single likes to talk about why they are single. There are some things that single people need to know though: There is nothing wrong with you. It's starts by looking up rather than looking around.

Before you think I'm crazy, lemme esplain. Looking around for a relationship for the wrong intention is dangerous, not only to you but to the other person as well. Looking around for a relationship just because everyone else is in a relationship (classic high school move) is plain crazy but it happens. Some go too far into this direction and not only miss the beat but create a whole other chromatic dilemma. 

I've had my experiences with relationships and I got to say, I've missed the beat completely on them. I was looking around rather than up. Look up to God instead. You're breathing for a reason. You're living for a purpose. God created relationships for good, not to use or borrow. 

If you're interested in someone, hey that's awesome. It's normal to develop feelings. What isn't normal is how we abuse them. I've seen way too many friends destroyed from abusing relationships.

God never intended for man to be alone, so there's always hope. Even Singlesville has sunshine during the day, with occasional cast of depressionisticdespairwithsomeforeveralone. 

Nobody is perfect and what they seem to be but that's the beauty of forming a relationship, whether that be as friendship or more. So give it time. Time is essential to everything in life. Time is rhythmic. And if you miss the right moment, you end up missing the beat. 

Your truly,

Gina Candy

Cavetime with Dr. BroMan

11/1/13

I just wanted to give a shout out to Dr. Jeff Voth ,(Dr. BroMan as we have so lovingly nicknamed him). I encourage everyone to check this guy out ! He has some awesome fathering wisdom to share to the men of our generation , and has been a great encouragement to this blog idea . He is one of my professors and I always walk away from his class with a new zeal for pursuing God completely and learning to ask myself why.  Check out his blog page and buy the book and sound track ! I promise you, it is worth it !!!!!!!!


       Blog :      http://cavetime.org/blog/
   Web page :
                     http://cavetime.org/



Thanks Dr. Voth for your support !

Blessings,

Chloe

HollaHalloween

HEY FOLKS! HAPPY HALLOWEEN
 (or Harvest Holidays.. whatevs)

   X Jessica 

Creep: A One-Sided Love Story

Hello!

So you probably know me, and if you don't know me, I know you probably have that one friend that over analyzes and over thinks every movement made. There's always that one girl that falls head over heels for a guy she's never met. The one that fantasizes about how perfect life could be if only he KNEW me. Well, if you haven't figured it out by now, that girl is me. Needless to say, many would address my title as a "creeper".

 I prefer to call it "an overly invested amount of admiration that gets carried away into day dreams from time to time".

#KiddingNotKidding

                                                                                                  

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Now the questions are... 

How can I avoid being "Led On"?

How can I prevent over-thinking the situation at hand? 

              SIDE NOTE: Now, I'm not going to lie, I am the Queen of Random Land. Sometimes, I know exactly how articulate what I wish to express. At other times, I speak as if I am a squirrel with the hiccups (and I will apologize in advance if my writing style is equally spastic).

 Now, recently I have come to realize this truth (Granted, this is after 1 month of obsessing) But the key to not obsessing over someone or something, is to not even attach yourself. Now, this sounds harsh. Like, I am not saying to break out your brick and mortar and create a wall between you and this individual, but instead I am saying, "Take a Chill Pill". They are human too! Please, erase any preconceived ideas of what this person is like.  They are not your prince charming, superhero, or supermodel.   They are human. Its as simple as that. Close your eyes and Breathe.  If you never put yourself in a position of helplessness, then you will never need rescuing. You will never feel that desperate plea to impress anyone. You can only be "led on" if you allow yourself to follow that individual. If you base your worth, goals, and emotions on the opinions of your special interest, YOU will never be satisfied. There is only one who can give your self-worth, and that's the Lord. God created you on purpose- for a purpose! So find your standards, priorities, and confidence. Remember, that YOU lead your own life, so take the initiative to find out the details from the beginning! Lay out a foundation. Take the lead in the relationship yourself, but most importantly: BE YOURSELF!

Now, I am sure there will be plenty of stories, scenarios, and soap operas to come. I know +Chloe   knows ALL of my internal conflicts and hilarious encounters of the male kind, but those shall be saved till later. 

Until then, 

Be Yourself and be only slightly creepy.

'Cause thats what makes you- You! 

Au revoir!!!

-Jessica

In the Beginning

10/28/13



For some people finding that one perfect soul mate is just a walk in the park, full of sunshine, butterflies and puppy dogs. But for some of us it's the journey from the Shire to the Mount Doom, just to cast that which is most precious to us into the fires of Mordor. We meet friends on this trip but they leave and ultimately bite our finger off out of jealously.  Now before you call me a Debbie Downer hear me out. Yes I believe in true love, that love is beautiful and that everyone deserves to be love and be loved in return. ..... However when you are continuously surrounded by lover and people who are googoo about each other , its enough to make a 20 year old curvy blonde actress singer, Throw up ! . I often ask myself "why don't guys look at me like that ", "why did he ditch me " "whats wrong with me " #foreveralone .  It took me a while to realize that its no me .... yes its not my problem because THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME ! And for those of you who say" yeah but" , no there is no "but" too it . As you read this you are need to stop and name 5 good things about yourself .....go ahead try it !


Good now know that you are beautiful and that you have to love yourself ! Your self worth does not come from men or women . You may be Frodo, but even though he lost a finger in the end he found happiness. I found that the more you want the perfect relationship and the harder you look for it the farther away it gets until you are so consumed with finding your man/woman , that person could walk by and you wouldn't even know .... or you scare them off with you obsession. (the latter happens more often then you think.)  Men are confusing and send mixed signals ,and girls well we aren't any better. A guy friend of mine described conversations with women as "8 layers of sarcasm, under a rock of irony, hidden under a bush of non-verbal communication , on a  plateau of feminine intuition". Men and women need to learn how to communicate without offense or invoking the friend zone . The pressure of relationships and marriage is enough to drive you crazy, but you don't have to search or drown in self pity .  Live you life and love who you can , but be ready because I have some great stories about my and my friends dating lives that will help you see that you are not alone in the struggle .

Stay Single Stay Strong !

XOXO Chloe